We know that divorce is a very difficult life passage. Many spouses who go through divorce are so blinded by their pain, guilt, frustration, anger… you fill in the rest of the adjectives… that they have very little energy or focus to recognize that their children are the potential collateral damage of their divorce “wars”.
Here at Peace Talks, our goal is to insure that while the legal definition of your relationship is changing, that your connection to each of your children remains intact. Our intention is to help you write a “peaceful divorce” so that your children can feel a sense of safety and security in their lives.
As you can imagine, when conflict and screaming exist in a home environment, children feel caught in the middle between two parents whom they love. Depending on their maturation, the fallout from this “war zone” may last a lifetime, influencing not only their relationships with each parent, but their future involvement in a potential couple’s commitment.
Written court orders which outline how often and when the children will be with each parent and how child-focused decisions will be made. Parenting plans typically include decision making protocols, a day-to-day schedule, vacations, holidays and travel, as well as other parenting issues like move-always.
Bruce Garber, a child psychologist and state certified guardian ad litem, have written a book entitled, Keeping Kids out of the Middle. He wants parents to stop making their children spies and messengers in the battlefield of divorce. He proposes practicing child centered parenting, which consistently creates parenting plans and conflict resolution strategies to meet your children’s emotional and psychological needs.
At Peace Talks Mediation Services, our custody mediation and parenting plan mediation services assist divorced, divorcing and never-married parents in working together to develop a child-centered custody plan and improve your ability to co-parent.
Peace Talks heartily endorses Mr. Garber’s position. We believe in sharing with your communication techniques and skills as we coach you through the divorce process. You will acquire tools to help you feel more confident about your ability to express yourself to your spouse and family and control the overwhelming emotional waves sometimes experienced as you participate in your Peace Talk sessions. We are here for you during this upheaval in your life and will make sure that you are able to keep your children out of the middle.
Diana Mercer is a Divorce Mediator and the founder of Peace Talks Family Mediation Services; they Provide you Divorce Mediation, parenting plan mediation and Child Custody Mediation in Los Angeles, Culver City, Ladera Heights, Beverly Hills, Santa Monica and Many More.